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What is your child’s personality like? Is he the kind of two-faced person who "is afraid to go out when he's at home"? How to treat "two-faced" baby? Next, parents should do these 4 points and correct them in time. Two days ago, a friend complained in the group and asked for help: Yesterday when I came home from get off work, I heard my son crying loudly: "I don't want to eat! I want to eat ice cream!" The parents-in-law coaxed him in a flattering tone: "Shuo Shuo, good boy, let's eat and then eat ice cream, okay? Only by eating can we grow strong." "No! I won't! I want to eat ice cream first!" The child angrily picked up a stuffed toy and threw it at her grandma. "What are you doing! How can you hit grandma with something?!" Shuoshuo heard my voice and immediately fell silent. "Oh, why are you talking so loudly? You're scaring the child." The mother-in-law complained a little, walked over and picked up the child. This hug from her mother-in-law was so good, Shuoshuo felt that she had found a "backer", and cried loudly, kicking her legs while crying, as if she had been greatly wronged. This has happened more than once. If he doesn't like anything at all, he will lose his temper with his elders. He especially likes to "bully" his grandparents who love him. But when he left the house, he seemed to be a different child. In the community, he never fights with other children. If a child snatches a toy from him, he doesn't dare to take it back. He just watches helplessly from the side. Sometimes he starts to ask adults for help when he feels aggrieved... What do you think my child has become "two-faced", a "red wolf" at home and a "little sheep" when going out? Some friends said: We are used to being kissed every other generation! Others said: Do they always stay at home and have little contact with children? Others said: They have the same baby at home! They have the same worries... I believe that in life, many mothers also encounter the same troubles: their children are completely different at home and outside! They never dare to fight for each other outside, and they dare not say anything when they are bullied. They are just a "suffering bag", but they "dominate" at home. Many parents express confusion and headaches about their children's behavior of being "cozy at home and timid when going out"! As the saying goes: There are no two identical leaves in the world. There are many children who are "cowardly at home and afraid to go out", and the reason behind it cannot be explained clearly by the word "used to it". Why do children become "unruly children"? Why is there such a huge contrast when they go out? What should parents do when faced with such troubles? Next, Kangaroo Mama will learn from you. 1. What are the reasons for being "cowardly at home"? 1. Sensitive sense of boundaries Babies are born with a "sense of boundaries" and a strong sense of territory. When babies are with familiar people or in a familiar environment (such as home), they will feel safe, relaxed, and loved! In this way, they will behave casually and boldly, and release their emotions without any worries! Once they are in a strange environment and face strange people and things, they need an adaptation process, and children will be very cautious and appear timid and reserved. In fact, it is not just children, but also adults. Who would "indulge" themselves unscrupulously in front of a completely unfamiliar environment and people? However, if it is found that the child is overly nervous, sensitive, or even resistant to the new environment, which has exceeded the reasonable range, parents need to pay attention. 2. The elders “pamper” unconditionally the other generation. Nowadays, many young parents leave their children to the elderly due to work reasons. One of the common problems in intergenerational parenting is that young people and old people sometimes have different parenting concepts, and the elders will be relatively doting on their children: after cooking vegetables, the children will eat chicken wings, and grandma will not be too tired to meet the baby's needs; when you see toys in the mall, it doesn't matter whether you have the same model at home, or whether it will be fresh after buying it.In a few minutes, as long as the grandson is happy, the grandfather will say buy it; the child loses his temper and hits the grandma, and the mother just wants to teach her, but the grandma steps forward to stop: He is still a child... He is still a child? What do children know? But don't forget that there is a saying called "people are small but ghosts are big". Don't think that children don't understand anything when they are young, they are very good at observing words and expressions! The reason why the child dares to be in trouble again and again is because the child knows that his grandparents will protect him, and he knows that as long as he cries, makes a fuss, or rolls around, they will compromise. 3. Parents are the "role models" for "being in trouble". Some people always leave their "bad emotions" to those closest to them. He greets outsiders with a smile, is polite, and is warm-hearted, but when his wife/husband or parents call him, he always looks impatient and speaks in a bad tone. After putting down the phone, he is greeted by a "warm spring breeze" again, completely different... Someone once said: The future of the child is hidden in the attitude and behavior of parents. Indeed, if adults are often aggressive in their homes, yelling at family members and showing no respect, children will imitate this behavior: restraining their emotions outside and being unscrupulous at home. 4. Lack of social interaction. For some children, their families may not often take them out to play. They always stay at home with only a few people coming and going. The family members are obedient to their children and treat them like a "little emperor" or "little princess". Over time, the children develop a self-centered personality. When a child goes out and is in a strange environment, he finds that others no longer focus on him and no longer follow his wishes: it is okay to hit an adult at home, but others will fight back if he hits a child outside; he has everything at home to himself, and someone will "rob" the same car in the playground; he wants to play with other children, but does not know how to integrate... This change gives the child a feeling of fear, anxiety, and grievance. After the child returns home, it is easy for the child to feedback this negative emotion that has nowhere to vent to his family. 2. How to guide children who are "cowardly at home"? There are no "bad" children born! Children who are "cowardly at home and cowardly" are not born! As parents, you must grow up with your children, pay attention to the child's psychological changes in a timely manner, and guide them correctly! 1. Don't label your children easily. As mentioned above, it is normal for children to be cautious and timid when facing strange people in unfamiliar environments. And children are young and sometimes cannot correctly understand and handle their own emotions! They may only express certain needs through simple and rude noises and crying! But sometimes when some parents chat with others, they often say: My children are always in a nest, crying or making trouble, but they are very timid outside and dare not play with the children. As everyone knows, when parents say this, they may give their children a strong psychological hint! The children may continue to follow such a "label"! As parents, you should pay attention to the changes in your children in a timely manner, understand your children's inner needs, actively guide your children to improve inappropriate behaviors, and encourage your children to bravely make new friends, rather than forcefully putting a "label" on your children and doing nothing! When the baby is crying and unhappy, the mother can squat down, hug the baby, and say, "Mom, I know you are unhappy now. Can you tell me why?" If the child can't tell, you can try to ask: "Are you angry because of XXX?" Maybe we didn't guess right, but the child's mood will be relieved, and then we can slowly tell why we are angry. This will also help solve the problem, and also gradually teach the child how to manage his emotions. Children naturally love to imitate. Mothers can usually use picture books to guide their children and tell them through cute cartoon images and vivid stories, and they will soon be able to imitate.Understand and accept. 2. Love your children well and remember to be generous. French educator Rousseau once said: Do you know what method you can use to make your child an unfortunate person? This method is to be obedient to him. We cannot deny the love of the elderly for their children, but those who dote on their children should understand this truth: doting is not real love, and there should be less obedience and more teaching in family education. You must resolutely say "no" to your child's unreasonable demands, and don't always think that your child is young and ignorant, and you have to do everything for him without having to bear any consequences! You know, if you don't educate your child, there will always be someone to educate him "hard" for you in the future. There are also some parents who, when educating their children, one is a white face and the other is a red face! Parents' educational concepts are not unified, and it is easy for their children to "look at others"! If children know which family members are "easy to bully", they will "become aggressive" in front of them! In short, there is a way to love your children, and you must not be excessive. Parents should have a "united front" when educating their children. 3. Parents set an example. When one parent is a "bad guy", the child will inevitably be affected by being in such an environment for a long time, get "true inheritance", and grow into a person with "two faces". Dong Qing once said: "The easiest way to determine what kind of person you want your child to be is to be the kind of person you want to be." Therefore, parents should set an example and be a good role model. They must be respectful and friendly to outsiders and family members. Don't always leave the greatest tolerance to outsiders and the worst temper to family members! A loving and warm family will bring more positive energy to the child. 4. Provide children with more opportunities to contact the outside world. In life, sometimes we will notice that some children rarely go downstairs to play. When they occasionally come out to play, they will stand far away and dare not say hello to other children. We should not let our children become flowers in the greenhouse. We should provide them with more opportunities to contact the outside world, and often take them out to communicate with their peers. If you encounter a small conflict, you can first try to let the children solve it on their own and patiently cultivate their social skills. As a parent, you should also encourage your children more, "You can do it", "You are great", etc. Under your guidance and encouragement, they will bravely "take a step forward" and become better and better.