What should we pay attention to when criticizing children? How can we praise children to become better?

It is said that parents are their children's first teachers. In addition to supervising their children's cultural studies, parents must also educate their children on their character, self-esteem, and how to behave. In the education process, it is inevitable to criticize or praise children. Many parents don't take this seriously. In fact, good criticism or praise has a positive effect on the growth of children. Let’s learn more about it together.

What should we pay attention to when criticizing children?

1. Do not hurt the child's self-esteem

When a child does something wrong, parents can criticize the child, but they cannot hurt the child's self-esteem, and do not label the child. Try not to criticize the child in front of an outsider, and avoid the use of violence.

2. Children must be convinced by criticism

When criticizing children, they must be fair and the suggestions they make must be constructive. Parents cannot deny everything about their children just because they have done something wrong.

3. Criticism must achieve the purpose of educating children

Many parents only criticize their children verbally, and forget about it after saying it. It has no effect on educating their children. Such criticism is meaningless. Correct education is to criticize children for the purpose of education and correction.

4. Pay attention to the child’s feelings after criticism

In addition to criticizing if you do something wrong, parents please give your child a hug. If a child makes the same mistake, parents should not criticize loudly, but calmly ask the child if they know where they went wrong.

How to praise children to become better

1. Clarify why children should be praised

When parents praise their children, they should let their children know what they have done correctly and be praised. Specific praise can help children establish correct values ​​in life.

2. Parents' heartfelt praise

Parents should not underestimate their children's observation and thinking abilities. When you want to praise your children, you must praise them from the heart. Only in this way can you be accepted by your children.

3. Pay attention to the way of expression

When praising a child, describing what you see and feel is more effective than dry praise.

How to reward children correctly

1. Material rewards cannot be excessive

If parents use material rewards excessively, they will not only lose the motivational effect, but also give children incorrect ideas. They will associate everything with material things, distort the children's values, and even become vain.

2. Be good at using spiritual rewards

Appropriate spiritual rewards are more effective than material rewards. What children need is not a single reward, but a variety of incentives. They need emotional satisfaction, respect and trust in personality, care in life, etc. Parents should establish an equal relationship with their children and respect them more.

3. Reasonable Discipline

Reasonable discipline helps children establish basic principles for doing things and allows them to understand what can and cannot be done.

4. Verbally praise but not reward the things that the child should do, such as eating, dressing, doing homework, etc., because these are things that the child should do. If you reward them blindly, the child will think that as long as he (she) does something, the parents will reward him (her) as a matter of course. On the contrary, this is not conducive to the growth of children. You can use verbal praise to guide your children to know that what they did is right and they should do the same in the future.