How to praise your children for getting better and better?

How to praise your children for getting better and better? How to praise children is a science, and it is not that simple. Many parents are at a loss for words when it comes to encouraging their children. They just say "you are awesome!" and "so smart" over and over again. In fact, always talking about "you are awesome!" If we want to give our babies better encouragement, we can do it according to the following principles: Principle 1: The content of encouragement and praise should be specific, don't just label it. "Awesome" and "so good" are probably the most compliments and encouragements we heard when we were children. So the question is, after hearing it so many times, do you know where you are "awesome" and "good"? It seems not. In the end, it evolved into the parent saying it casually, and you just listened to it casually, and even felt perfunctory. How sad that a praise that should have been very motivating turns into a mere formality or counterproductive! Therefore, when you praise your child, you might as well say a few more words and point out what he did well that makes you think he is "great" and "good". For example, tell your child: "It's great that you can put on your own socks today!" "You took the initiative to get mom's slippers today, thank you!" This kind of targeted praise will make it easier for the child to understand and know what to do in the future, and your sincere affirmation can also encourage him to do better in the future. Principle 2: Encourage and affirm your child's efforts more, don't just praise him for being smart. Children who are always praised for their smartness may lack the sense of cooperation, like to compete with others, and be afraid of difficult challenges. "You are so smart" is likely to act like hypnosis, filling the child with "mysterious confidence." In this case, the conceited mentality will make the child disdain to cooperate with others. Instead, he will want to compete with others when encountering problems. However, when faced with a task that he feels is difficult to complete, he can't help but shrink back. If he fails, wouldn't his "smart" label be stained? So, don't habitually praise your child "you are so smart". Instead, you can affirm his efforts, attitude, persistence, courage, creativity, organization, etc. For example, You can count 1, 2, and 3 because you study hard and deserve encouragement! You can tie your own shoelaces because you practice hard, keep up the good work! ... Principle 3: Encouragement is to make children more confident, not to put more pressure on them. We encourage children to make them confident, courageous, and willing to work hard; if we do not use good encouragement, it will even become a pressure on the children. Many parents especially like to "imagine the future" when encouraging their children. We have actually heard similar encouragements when we were children: "You did well in the test this time, you must do better next time!" This kind of "encouragement for the future" will bring a lot of pressure to the children, who are worried that if they fail to fulfill their mother's (father's) requirements, their parents will be disappointed. Therefore, we should not think about getting children to give us more feedback just by encouraging them, which will only increase the pressure on the children. Don't be greedy. Let's simply discuss the matter and only confirm what the child is doing well.